At some point, your loved one may need some extra help around the house. Cleaning, cooking, reminders to take medication and assistance with errands are services that allow seniors to stay independent in their own homes.
However, when the time comes, you may find your loved one is resistant to the idea. Here are some ways to make the transition go smoother.
Why are seniors resistant to care?
There are myriad reasons why seniors refuse care at home. Oftentimes, seniors aren’t comfortable letting a “stranger” into their homes. Or, they could be embarrassed that they need some extra help. Others may feel that in-home care will cause a loss of independence, or they may be in denial regarding their own abilities.
Regardless of why your loved one is reluctant, a professional in-home care service will help your loved one stay safe at home.
How to start a conversation about in-home care
Conversations about senior care can be awkward. In some ways, you’re reversing roles by taking responsibility for your loved one’s care and well being. Here are some tips to help make the conversation easier.
Start conversations about senior care before your loved one experiences a serious health problem. Discussing in- home services is a vital part of long-term healthcare planning. Ask what plans they’ve made if they reach a point they can no longer care for themselves. Remember that several smaller conversations may be easier than having one big talk following a crisis.
Change is hard. Try to put yourself in their shoes and imagine how they feel when faced with this situation. Be sure you listen to your loved one’s concerns and recognize them as normal feelings.
Pick the right time
Mornings are a good time to have a conversation about senior care. Perhaps after breakfast when your loved one has more energy would be a suitable time to talk.
Talk about your feelings
Make certain your loved one knows you’d be more comfortable if they have someone looking out for them. Tell them that securing in-home care would ease your mind and lower your own stress.
Include your loved one in decisions
If your loved one acknowledges that in-home help would be nice, make sure they know they’re still in control. If he or she is concerned about a specific caregiver, let them know a replacement can be quickly found.
Make independence a motivator
Be certain your loved one knows that having a professional caregiver will allow them to spend more time doing the things they enjoy. They’ll have more freedom while maintaining good health.
Secure a needs assessment
When you reach the point your loved one is willing to consider care at home, ask an agency to provide to needs assessment. You and your loved one will be able to discuss services that would be of benefit to everyone. If possible, let your loved one participate in the conversation. Following the assessment, ask your loved one how they would like to move forward. Once your loved one agrees to services, start small. Have a caregiver come in one time per week to clean or to make sure your loved one is eating properly.
While a discussion about in-home senior care can be daunting, it may become necessary to talk with your parents or another loved one about extra help. These tips can help the conversation go smoother.